Many women message the same thing:
“My family thinks my business is time pass.”
“They say, ‘Pehlay ghar dekho, phir yeh sab.’”
“They don’t respect my work, so I also lose energy.”
This hurts.
Because these are the people you love.
You want *support, not *lectures.
Let’s talk about this honestly and simply.
1. You Are Not Crazy for Wanting Both
You are allowed to want:
- A peaceful home
- Happy children
- And a real business
This is not selfish.
This is not ego.
This is called having goals.
Many women kill their own dreams because of one sentence:
“Log kya kahenge if I focus on my work?”
Ask yourself:
Who will live with the regret later – people, or you?
2. Why Family Sometimes Does Not Take It Seriously
Mostly it is not hate.
It is fear and old thinking.
Common thoughts in their mind:
- “Online ka kaam safe nahi hota.”
- “Business fail ho gaya to kya hoga?”
- “Ghar aur bacho ka system disturb ho jayega.”
They don’t see your vision.
They only see risk.
And sometimes, we also send the wrong message:
- We don’t have fixed work time.
- We cancel orders easily.
- We say “bas thora sa kaam hai.”
- We don’t track money.
So they think, “Yeh serious nahi, bas shauq hai.”
3. First Step: You Take Your Business Seriously
Before you ask for their respect, check your own behaviour.
Ask yourself:
- Do I give my business a clear time slot?
- Do I deliver on time?
- Do I know my monthly sales and profit?
- Do I keep my promises to clients?
If your answer is “no” for most of these, start there.
Family listens more when they can *see discipline, not only *hear speeches.
4. Have One Calm, Clear Conversation
Not drama. Not fight.
Just one calm meeting.
Pick a relaxed time.
No one is angry, no one is rushing.
You can say something like:
“I want to share something important.
I am running this business because I want to support our home and also grow as a person.
I will manage my responsibilities, but I need your respect and some space for my work.
I am not doing time pass. I am building something serious.”
Keep it short.
No blaming.
Just clear words and clear eyes.
5. Set Simple Boundaries at Home
Boundaries do not mean disrespect.
Boundaries mean clarity.
You can try:
- Fixed Work Hours
- Example: “Every day from 3–5 pm I will work. Please don’t plan random tasks for me in this time unless it is an emergency.”
- Work Zone
- Even if it is one table or one corner, make a small “work area”.
- When you sit there, it means “I am at work”.
- Phone Rules
- Tell them, “When I am on a business call, please give me 10 minutes of quiet, I will join back after that.”
Slowly they will understand:
This is not a hobby. This is her job.
6. Show Results, Even If They Are Small
People respect what they can see.
So, collect proof:
- Note down your monthly sales.
- Show how you paid one bill from your earnings.
- Buy one small thing for the home or kids from your business income and say clearly,
“This is from my work.”
You are not showing off.
You are showing value.
Even if the amount is small, it sends a big message:
“This work is real. It brings something to our life.”
7. Don’t Wait for 100% Support to Start
Hard truth:
Some families will only fully support you after they see success.
So do not pause your dreams waiting for perfect support.
You can:
- Start small but consistent.
- Save a little money from your sales.
- Keep learning and improving.
Let your results speak over time.
Remember:
You are not doing this against your family.
You are doing this for yourself and for a stronger future for them.
8. Simple Action Plan for This Week
For the next 7 days:
- Choose a fixed work time (even 1 hour daily).
- Tell your family clearly about this time, in a respectful way.
- Deliver every order on time, no excuses.
- Write your income and expenses in one notebook.
- End the week by sharing one small win with them.
Step by step, respect grows.
Step by step, their language changes.
Step by step, they move from:
“Yeh kya fazool ka kaam hai?”
to
“Is ka kaam achha chal raha hai.”
You are not asking for permission to exist.
You are asking for space to grow.
And you deserve that.